"Banning" a word from your vocabulary (or the collective vocabulary) is #horseshit. We don’t need to ban "bossy"; what we need to do is teach people comprehension. Here’s the thing: bossy is a word people need to hear. Because bossy people suck. I should know, I am one.
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I think you need to take a closer look into what this campaign is doing, and to do so I think you need to have a MUCH better understanding of the sociolinguistic implications of calling a woman “bossy”. Look up linguists like Vasvari on “bitch discourse” or classics like Lakoff’s “The Politics of Nice.” Or just read the campaign’s statement a little closer.
Understand that it isn’t the goddamn WORD that’s the problem here. Everything EVERYTHING you said about the difference between being bossy and being a leader is the problem. It’s the fact that women who DO enter positions of leadership and power are SEEN AS BOSSY even if what they really are is GOOD, ASSERTIVE LEADERS. That’s the point here.
It isn’t to ban the word bossy from our collective lexicon. That would be the most horseshit idea ever. The idea is to reconceptualize female leadership, to address the misogyny and ESPECIALLY the internalized misogyny that makes us all look at a man and a woman both being authoritative and see the man as “assertive” and the woman as “bitchy” or “bossy”.
Your self-deprecating anecdotal argument is completely missing the point. And if that’s a harsh thing to say, I’m sorry, but I literally just spent the past few months listening to lectures and reading and writing papers on exactly this kind of censure of assertive women and it all gets a bit sickening after a while.
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nani was NINETEEN and such a fucking badass who was so protective of lilo and just ROLLED with aliens being a thing towards the end of the movie. #1 Disney relative of all time.
I have honestly been waiting AGES for the right gifset to express the wonderful perfection that is Nani. She is not only protective of Lilo, she respects the way Lilo’s imagination and quirkiness works.
Pudge the fish got a peanut butter sandwich every Thursday. Nani does not argue the logic of feeding him, only suggests an alternative sandwich when they are out of peanut butter. Lilo was allowed to take as many photos of whatever mundane or odd subjects as she wanted and Nani would get them developed. Nani recognized what were important habits for Lilo.
When Lilo asks for a pet lobster, Nani does not tell her that lobsters are not pets. She tells her, “We don’t have a lobster door, we have a dog door.” She makes sure the woman at the pound does not tell Lilo that “Stitch is not a real name”.
NANI SPENDS THE ENTIRE MOVIE MAKING SURE THAT LILO NEVER FEELS LIKE HER IDEAS ARE WRONG.
The only time we truly see Nani get angry with Lilo is when she is scared of Lilo being taken away. Nani spends the entire movie stressed out over taking care of her sister, trying to find a job, trying to make sure her sister has a friend, and yet she is always willing to put that extra effort, over and over again, to make sure that Lilo always believes that anything is possible.
This is a great moment because she probably *remembered* that Lilo said this once. And you know what? Shes not ending this day by letting her little sister think this is her fault. She’s not having an easy time trying to be a parent, but she knows none of this is her sisters fault, and shes not going to let her think it is.
And half of her terror of losing Lilo isnt even just losing her family; its knowing that wherever Lilo goes, they won’t know how to do these things. They won’t understand her.
What a good movie.
Casual reminder that the reason Lilo obsessively feeds the fish is because her parents died in a rainstorm and she firmly believes Pudge controls the weather. If you pay attention to the feeding sequence you will notice that storm clouds recede and dissipate, a visual narrative that confirms this.
It’s not just a habit. It’s a very real part of Lilo’s healing process and Nani understands that.
Also if you pay attention to Nani’s room you’ll notice she had surfing posters and trophies. She was very much on her way to being a pro surfer but had to give it up to become the adult Lilo needed her to be.
And not ONCE does Nani show her sister any resentment. It’s worth it to keep her family together. This is a young woman who is willing to sacrifice all of her dreams and make incredibly grown up decisions.
What I am saying is Nani is the best disney princess of all time. Disney Queen even.
Fun fact: I’ve watched this movie periodically with my family since it came out. I always identified with fun-loving, oddball Lilo. Then my mother died and my father had a hard time keeping our “little, broken” family on track and I grew up.
And one day when I was eighteen my dad turned to me and said something like “you know to me, this movie has always been about Nani. She’s so young, do you realize that? This is so hard for her…it’s incredible” and I understood something new about this movie and maybe I understood something new about my dad.
I love Lilo and Stitch so so so much.
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When Lilo graduated from High School, Grand Councilwoman immediately calls her and tells her that she is really interested for her to become a future Captain of the Galactic Armada, but for her to do that she will first have to attend G.A.C.C. (Galactic Alliance Community College). Lilo is happy for the offer, but says that she will only accept if Stitch could go with her.
With the Councilwoman’s approval, both friends waste no time to pack their bags, excited of what their future awaits.
I would watch this so hard
Lilo and Stitch is my favourite Disney film of all times, and I’d definitely watch this.
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- 1 week ago
I just finished Joyce’s Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man and literally all I got out of it was:
- Irish history is interesting
- Irish identity is complicated
- Joyce can’t religion…
- …but Joyce can’t not religion
- Fuck you Stephen Dedalus
- No really
- Fuck you
I’m 3 chapters into Ulysses now and I am still aggressively flipping off Stephen Dedalus every other pageSource: freestylefantastic